1. Have foresight to think and plan ahead.
2. Surround yourself with nurturing-supportive people.
3. Don't go on vacations with critical people.
4. Minimize the critical part of you and tune into your nurturing self.
5. Strengthen your adult to protect your little kid.
6. Make a list of 20 things you haven't done for fun and do them.
7. Make a fun album.
8. Learn how to say "No".
9. Avoid critical family and friends.
10. Ask people to do things for you.
11. Turn fear focused into fun focused.
12. Don't mind read.  Ask person what they are thinking.
13. Don' react to behaviors.  Respond to them.
14. Ask people for help.
15. Be in a 50-50 giving & receiving relationship.
16. Look at guilt as doing something for yourself.
17. Look at resentment as doing something for someone else that you don't want to do.
18. Do things now.  Avoid procrastination.
19. Learn to express anger effectively. Look at depression as keeping anger inside and not expressing it.
20. Make a list of what you want and what makes you happy.

Dene T. Stamas, M.A., L.C.P.C.

Copyright 1984